Valentine's, or, TFWNOGF No More

It's on everyone's mind.

Let's introduce this matter quickly; every single man reading this wants a woman to call his own. Every single man reading this also happens to know that obtaining a woman is hard. Scratch that – getting a woman is easy. Getting a quality woman is hard. You can find any number of post-Wall commitment chasers with x number of children from previous “mistakes” that would just love for you to put a ring on it. After all, they know you're a cut above; by virtue of reading The American Sun I can safely assume you're reasonably attractive to women and decent at running Game.

But attraction and Game are only part of the equation for nabbing up a female that's actually wife material. The best that you could hope for at that point is subverting a woman who would have been good wife material, and setting her on a bad path. There would be no cat ladies if there were no Chads, after all. No, it takes a bit more to get a wife (we'll get to that) than just knowing how women operate and what to do to get one in bed.

What kind of woman?

Before discussing the solution to the Lonely Right Winger problem, we need to talk about a problem that a lot of Lonely Right Wingers have: a total lack of grace. If you're looking for a woman, you are looking for a poor miserable sinner just like yourself, one who is also going to be affected by the total domination and subversion enacted by Clown World against every human being alive. If straight white men are public enemy #1, women are the first victim of the war. Somewhere down the line, our enemies found out that going after the women with propaganda and false freedom would demoralize the men. If you're looking for a wife in the midst of the American Abyss, you will be hard pressed to find a woman who isn't screwed up to some extent by it.

The best we can hope for is the least subverted. I am happy to say that I married the Christian Virgin whose goal was to be a housewife since she was five years old. But she's a rarity. If there are no girls out there like this in your area, there are still acceptable, marriagable candidates in your area. What constitutes them? Well, a traditional outlook on womanhood and marriage, minimum number of partners previous to you, and the least baggage possible are a good start. But what constitutes “marriagable” is a topic for another article.

Remember, you do want a wife. Not a girlfriend. There is no dedication, nor any future, with a “girlfriend,” one who by her title always has the option to leave with no consequences. If you have not taken the exit routes that many a man has taken to escape the loneliness that Clown World inflicted – homosexuality, transgenderism, pickup artistry, MGTOW/Incelism, etc. – then you are stubbornly insisting that you must have a wife. That is your right after all. For thousands of years humanity did well in fostering marriage; only now are you basically denied it. You don't mean to say tfwnogf; you mean to say “I demand a wife.”

Failed Escape Routes

Don't be a homosexual or Go Trans

This ought to go without saying, especially on this website, and namely because homosexuality is a sin, but it is worth mentioning. However, it also gives you no great help in solving the desire for a spouse. Homosexuality has always been about the utility of obtaining sex, as men have a higher sex drive than women. If they decide to pervert their natural sexuality, then these men will end up having a lot more sex. I believe Foucault wrote that it ends up being a covenant with death, sacrificing one's life for the sake of pleasure. With this kind of deal with the devil, let Sciambra tell you: the juice ain't worth the squeeze, and you won't find fulfillment in it.

Same goes with transgenderism. Again, this goes without saying to a right-wing audience, but transgender people are not loved, they are used. Like the homosexual, they are made, not born, and they are made by perversion. But for the tranny this means becoming a symbol for access to power, and that is the gift they receive for the sacrifice of their manhood. The gay man can trick himself into thinking he is not lonely – “how could I be? Look at how much I'm getting my butthole railed!” – but the tranny will be unloved and uncared for. There is no family element in either. Don't let someone NAXALT you on it either – instead, have some fun googling “sex change regret” and tell me that those numbers don't speak to the immediate horror of the unfulfilled pervert.

Don't be a pickup artist.

I know, I know, here's SuperLutheran being a “simp” and “defending women;” the real solution, says the Pickup Artist, is to ride the tiger and bang all the girls you can. Yes, because our answer to the problem of vapid and loose women should be to... create...more of them? Should we really reward whorish behavior?

PUAs, when self-aware, are the kind of hedonists that pretend to be enlightened while acting just like everyone else. In other words, they are culture-vultures; you say you're riding the tiger, but you mean that you're fully enjoying the decay, feasting on it, even. All you are doing is going along with the evils of our society, and thinking that it's fine because you know better while you're doing it. “All women are disgusting whores....and I love me some disgusting whores.” To live like this is worse than the homosexual's life; as the march of time renders you impotent, the god you made of sex withers away, and you find yourself dying old and alone. Consider the transformation of the PUA Roosh into a man of God. There was no future chasing skirts. At least the poofter dies at 35 without having to think about it very much.

Don't go MGTOW/Volcel/Incel

MGTOW is the relationship equivalent of taking your ball and going home. Incels are the relationship equivalent of suicide. MGTOW says “Women are evil, so I will have nothing to do with them.” Incels say “Women are evil, and thus I suffer alone.” The MGTOW guys is basically the same thing as the incel, only more aware that what he is doing is conscious; the incel attempts to convince himself that his decision is entirely out of his control.

This avenue of escape is wrong for three reasons. First, if you participate and take it seriously, you will die alone and miserable, just like the pickup artist except that you had a lot less sex. Second, you do nothing to solve the problem by quitting. It's like taking the Benedict Option; the persecution doesn't end just because you go into hiding, dummy. Third, it is objectively wrong to say that women by definition are uniquely disposed to ruin all things. There are over 3 billion of them. At least one is good enough for you.

Inb4 “simp”/”white knight.” I have a wife and a child. I've been married for six years. I've reproduced. MGTOW/Volcel/Incel, you haven't. “WhAt iF She DiVoRcEs yOu?” We'll get to preventing that later in this article, but even if that happens, I got to enjoy a good marriage for a long time, I got to enjoy the happiness of having a son, and I got to have lots and lots of sex. Even if my wife ends up becoming the stereotypical AWFL and robbing me blind through divorce, I still enjoyed something good for a long time: what, other than loneliness, material wealth and porn, can you say you got out of your philosophy?

A Better Way to Go About It

Step One: Finding a Girl

Every man ought to seek help from his fellows in finding a prospective wife. This could be your friends, your pastor or church body, your mannerbund, perhaps even your family. In olden times, Babushka helped get the girls married off; if you don't have a Babushka, you'll have to find people to do her job. Think of it this way; you looking for a girl, amidst a sea of women that you don't know, is laying one pair of blind eyes on your environment. You don't know their history, you don't know their character, and you aren't familiar with how they live. An extended network of people helping you to find a girl, however, is a large amount of eyes with good eyesight, each person having connections and relationships with the good girls they can help you find. In other words, if a quality woman is hard to find, get help.

Step Two: Wooing a Girl

I'm an advocate of chastity before marriage for a lot of good reasons. Still, it is good for men to be attractive and learn basic Game to continue that attraction. During the time you are courting, it is also wise to make sure that you leave no stone unturned in your own life regarding income, property, vehicles, health insurance, and observance of tradition; it is your job to be an adult and responsible for a family. The basic deal of economic security is one that continues to appeal to the average woman whether she would admit it or not. In other words, make yourself a catch without being a beta.

I cannot say it enough, though, that you must – must – be chaste. Your future could depend on it. Even if the gf you end up with hasn't known a man yet, sleeping with her and excusing it with “well, we're going to get married anyway” is a foolish gamble to take. Think of it this way: if you sleep with her now, but the relationship ends, then you have made divorce in the future for her more likely; gee, thanks, you've helped destroy someone else's family 10 years down the line. You just contributed to greater societal decay. But if you sleep with her and somehow end up married to her later on, you are still hurting your chances. Just wait. Keep it in your pants knowing that yes, you are compatible – Implement A will slide into Slot B with little difficulty.

Step Three: Keeping a Girl

So you got some help finding a girl, then you made sure to be a Chad Catch that she'd want to marry. You stuck to your guns on chastity to make sure you got a virgin bride (or a bride who had to wait long enough to forget what the other guy was like). Now, you're married. How do you keep yourself from getting divorced, frivorced, and every tragedy in between? Here are some ideas to get you started:

First off, go to Church. Every Week. No, seriously. Go to Church. The Harvard study that talks about lowered divorce rates among weekly-attending believers also concludes (as the other links discuss) a peer pressure that helps keep the feminine instinct for rotating polyandry at bay, as well as the male drive to spread seed everywhere.

Second, abominate romance, replace it with meaningful relationship. And keep running Game on your wife. Undo the thoughts you were raised with, where relationships are transactional. I was taught by media that giving a girl flowers or jewelry meant “winning” (read: purchasing) the girl. This is the essence of the beta inside you that must perish. Of course, I imagine most of my readers know this stuff already, but it's worth saying that until we get White Sharia, there will be no bride markets.

Third, while I can advise prenups all I want... they can get thrown out of courts easily. Instead, make sure to rule your household well; get the whole family to withdraw their consent to be subverted by Clown World. Get the wife in on it, declare that “we will not have degenerate garbage in this home” and give her a suitable replacement for it. Replace Eat/Pray/Love with Little Women on her bookshelf, buy her modest clothes to replace her yoga pants, etc. You're supposed to be in charge here, so use your authority to prevent your authority from being challenged by the forces of decay. If you frame it right, it will be an enjoyable experience for her and something she will contribute to. I'll talk about this subject more in a future post.

Conclusion: Valiant Valentine

It takes a measure of bravery to go out, get help, get game, and then get married. There is a comfortable death in being MGTOW, gay, or a pickup artist; you know that you will die in your lifestyle, with little variation or change. A marriage, however, includes lot of change, and if you play your cards right, it will be good change – that is, growth. Growing a family, growing a relationship, having a future and a legacy without sacrificing any of the sex or drive for success that the other options give you. Be someone's valiant valentine.